• NimbleNemesis@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    58·
    2 days ago

    I had sex with a guy who spent the entire evening telling me the plots of various Star Wars novels. He was a good storyteller and I found it very attractive.

      • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
        37·
        2 days ago

        There are basically two paths to romantic success:

        1. Make yourself into a generally attractive person
        2. Find a weirdo that likes you as you are

        Path 1 requires way more personal work, but it’s easier to find someone because you’re compatible with more people. Path 2 requires way more effort searching for the perfect match, because they’re out there but a lot rarer and harder to find.

        Personally, I say split the difference and take the middle path: work on yourself enough to find a mid-tier weirdo.

        • Pommes_für_dein_Balg@feddit.org
          3·
          1 day ago

          Path 1 is dangerous if you only manage to put on the mask of a more attractive person and hide your nerdyness.
          Cause after 3 years you’ll be sick of masking and if your partner isn’t attracted to the real you, any long term relationship is doomed to fail.

        • WoodScientist@lemmy.world
          8·
          2 days ago

          Path 2 requires way more effort searching for the perfect match, because they’re out there but a lot rarer and harder to find.

          My god I’m so glad I met my husband back in the days when online dating hadn’t been completely enshittified. (Or so I’ve heard, haven’t used online dating sites in the last decade.) We met on okcupid in 2014. Their personality and interest quizzes were actually pretty good if you engaged with them honestly. My husband and I were a 99% match. And yeah…I found my weirdo. <3

          • RheumatoidArthritis@mander.xyz
            3·
            1 day ago

            Online dating used to be so good for weirdos like us! I wouldn’t dare making an account these days, it’s pointless with everything being centered about looks and a conversation starter that stands out from hundreds of others.

        • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world
          1·
          1 day ago

          I’m the number two.

          I met my partner on Tinder. We were just supposed to fuck a few times.

          We got married 8 months later.

        • JoeBigelow@lemmy.ca
          3·
          2 days ago

          My weirdo and I found each other and then started working on being more rounded people, I think we got really lucky we made it through the first few years and got to where we are now, 12 years on.

          • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
            1·
            2 days ago

            You can get really lucky on path 2 and find your weirdo quickly, especially if you’re already social in circles that cater to your brand of weirdo. It’s a roll of the dice, though.

          • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
            3·
            2 days ago

            Either works for either, really. I’ve masked my weirdness enough to have moderate luck in the short term on path 1, I’ve had luck scouring for real weirdos on path 2. Both take effort.

            For a long term spouse, I still think the middle path is best. I wouldn’t have been happy long term with the normies on path 1, and the certified freaks on path 2 wouldn’t have been healthy long term either. You wanna hit that sweet spot where you roughly have your shit together, but you’re not dulling your shine much.

          • PlzGivHugs@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            3·
            2 days ago

            1 is for all relationships, romantic and not. Being a better (or even just more well-rounded) person supports all areas, since you can make more connections, and better maintain them in all situations. 2 can be a way to build a really strong connection, but one or two shared interests, and a good personality match does not a relationship make - especially as people and situations change.

        • Skullgrid@lemmy.world
          2·
          2 days ago

          Everyone is someone’s kink.

          some kinks are rarer and more easily fulfilled, leaving you with jack shit

    • VitoRobles@lemmy.todayEnglish
      7·
      1 day ago

      My wife was binging some reality romance show and out of the blue, started talking about it. It was kind of interesting but not where I wanted to watch it. But she kept getting more and more passionate about each character. I kinda stopped listening halfway because I just found it very sexy as she kept going on and on.

  • SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world
    21·
    2 days ago

    What’s unbelievable is that the plot explanation required an entire 45 minutes

    “Make sword also shout dragon kill eat sweet roll not die”

  • cub Gucci@lemmy.today
    14·
    2 days ago

    One time a girl invited me over, we smoked pot and she described how her boyfriend died in detail. We haven’t had sex

  • stupidcasey@lemmy.world
    5·
    2 days ago

    Can someone explain it to me? I want to know what a horse half way between a tree has to do with medieval Vulcans invading Scandinavia.