It’s the flannel, it serves as camouflage for the ants, making people think they’re either lesbians or hipsters. Unfortunately, nobody wants their neighborhood flooded by hipsters, so they just assume lesbians and hope for the best

You don’t cure shy. You can’t.

Only thing you can do is offer support and give them the freedom to explore with the safety that good support can bring.

She’s not going to have trouble making friends. She’ll be selective about who she considers a friend. That’s not a bad thing. We all have to surround ourselves with people that match us and/or balance us.

That balance is what you encourage. Finding her own path to friends she, she feels connected to and safe with. Once she finds them in her own way, in her own time, you provide the opportunities for them to spend time together so that those friendships grow and develop.

Being slow to warm up, being shy, it’s not a bad thing. It’s just one way of experiencing life.

Overall, if it doesn’t contribute something useful to the plot or character development, it’s an excuse to check messages.

Don’t get me wrong, I like seeing naked people. I even like seeing naked people do sex acts.

But 99/100, sex scenes are boring as hell in regular shows and movies. They don’t do anything except serve as an opportunity to see an actor’s body naked. Which is nice! But it so rarely does anything else that it breaks immersion, and that’s just not a net positive for me.

Take a movie like eyes wide shut. It’s essentially a sex based movie, so the sex scenes matter, they serve the plot nd character arcs. Still a mediocre movie, but it did the sex scenes in a useful way.

Then you get to something like Antichrist (Lars von Trier) and the only point to it being there is to have it there at all. It doesn’t serve the movie as a whole. Great movie, shitty sex scene (okay, a mediocre sex scene, but with a shitty reasoning).

Now, you also run into stuff like shortbus vs something like Caligula. Both movies use unsimulated sex throughout. But they did it for different reasons, and with equal success towards those goals. Shortbus uses the sex as a backdrop for and exploitation of the human condition and character drives. Most of the sex is kinda meh, but it’s riveting because it matters. You couldn’t do that story without some sex on screen.

Caligula is/was porn trying to be mainstream. To a degree it worked. Depending on which edit you watch, the decree of success can vary. But! Most of the sex might as well be individual scenes of gonzo porn on pornhub or wherever. It almost never actually serves the plot or characters beyond being a lazy way to say Rome was licentious. It worked in that it succeeded at being porn with a plot, mainly because it had some great actors doing the actual acting parts. But you can cut all the sex scenes (and there’s edits of that out there) and end up with a better movie. Can’t call it great, but it’s watchable over time without being a total waste of time.

So, it means that I really enjoy good sex scenes that serve a purpose, and will sometimes choose a movie to watch because of that. But it’s hard to tell going in if a given newmovie is going to get it right or not

hype? Pretty much any because hype is almost always artificial.

But fans? I can’t say any band/performers don’t deserve their fan base. You pull the crowds that need what you’re making, so you inherently deserve them.

I can say that some fans do over hype the talents of what they like. It’s perfectly okay to be a middle range musician, and it’s perfectly fine to like them and recommend them exactly as they are.

Like, backstreet boys. Solid pop boy band. Had some great songs, but most were just okay pop. None of the members can really be compared to someone like Freddy Mercury, or Pavarotti, or Marvin Gaye, but they all had good voices to some degree or another and used them well. But their fan base back in the day was all about the hype, the fannishness of it. So they got hyped way beyond what they were.

That’s the curse of a lot of pop performers, and it is the curse of teen/tween targeted pop for sure.

A lot of that kind of performer has to totally undo their family friendly (which is a bullshit term to begin with) focus to ever really grow musically. Look at pretty much every Disney escapee for examples. Timberlake, arguably the best example of someone escaping that trap without having to piss off the original fan base, still drags some of that curse with him while producing some very good pop music.

Now, KISS? Since that’s the example in the post, I think you run into the trouble of hindsight. At the time they gained their initial popularity and success, they were a damn great live band. A KISS show back then was something most people had never seen, and the hype was justified

But they suffer from the success curse. Other people took what they did and did it better. So now the hype is essentially all nostalgia, so it feels out of place. Legit, go back and check out footage of their live shows and compare it to the standard rock bands of the same eras. It wasn’t until they went full idiot and tried to abandon the makeup (and all that went with it) that they lost the thread. At that point, they kept trying to summon up what they’d lost and never regained their mojo. At this point, a KISS show just doesn’t do justice to what the hype says. It can’t, because it isn’t the same band despite being mostly the same people.

But they were always mid tier songwriters (even the ones I fucking love were mid tier compared to a band like The Band that I tend to enjoy less).

So, that kind of thing is why I don’t jump on hype or shit on hype. It’s usually artificial, and it’s also usually generated by dint of numbers. So hype never carries well.

But it’s also why I never object or care about someone like Taylor Swift having a massive fan base either. She writes and performs for her target audience. She does that very well, no matter what else anyone thinks about her. Any pop performer is trying to do exactly that. Even niche subgenre performers that are actually trying to sell their music try to find a way to target a fan base (even if it’s only people that would object to being called a fan base).

I would, at this point in my life, also say that at least checking out hype can be worth it. Even if you don’t like whatever it is, you’ve shared something with other people, and that’s a net positive. Plus, you might run into a few songs you do like from someone you don’t otherwise enjoy (like shake it off from Swift for me)

For anyone curious

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Redantman

A reddit user that frequented the subs dedicated to the kind of things you couldn’t ask in askreddit.

He was full of truly unusual questions, some of which barely parsed well enough to try and answer. But he wasn’t boring!

Legit, this isn’t that shitty a question.

However!

I met your dad at the glory hole, and he was pretty good on his knees

Wait, that’s bullshit.

He knows shit about fuck. Get it right next time

;)

No. It happens often.

The very contractions that are part of orgasm make it easy, not difficult.

Eh, it’s definitely not power tripping. They explained their reasoning, gave a limited ban, and did so politely.

Whether or not the comment violated rules could be debated, but they erred on the side of caution. Since we live in a world where even a meme community can be a target for hatred and nastiness, the mods erring on the side of caution is necessary. That isn’t something I’d be willing to debate at all. Some communities just need extra vigilance. That’s one of them.

I think you’d be well served by taking this chance to reexamine what you said and how you said it. The same basic idea could have been expressed in a way that didn’t even get close to the rule, plus ways that didn’t get as close much less be so close as to be indistinguishable from breaking the rule about targeting validity of terminology.

Maybe you didn’t intend your comment to be taken as it was. I’m willing to believe that. But you do need to be aware that it sure looks like someone trying to dance around a bad faith argument in hopes of trying to play a semantics game to bypass a rule. Loopholes don’t actually exist for this kind of thing, and shouldn’t. You abide by the spirit of the rules, or gtfo. So, if you weren’t doing that, then you gotta recognize the dubiousness of the comment and accept that future participation in that or similar communities requires an extra level of thoughtfulness in constructing comments.

Edit: the title of your post here is at the least misleading, and at worst an outright lie. The screen shot included in the post shows it as originally a temp ban ,as does the mod log. The perma ban seems to have happened based on your behavior after the temp ban, which is fully on you

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Wasn’t that hard

My dude, bandanas exist. Clean hands on your own bandana is as good as it gets.

Find what they call trainman, signalman or similar ones. They’re bigger, tend to be easy to find in thicker fabric, and can do other jobs as well.

As you roll up to the sink, pull the bandana out, drape it around your neck. Wash, shake a little, grab the bandana and dry off.

It’ll go right back in your pocket and not cause any problems very slightly damp. If need be, leave it hanging loosely around the neck or out of the pocket so it’ll dry.

Kitchen. You save water by washing your dishes as you pee

There’s a reason I’ve had it blocked since the first post showed up in my all feed.

It can be a hard watch, no doubt. I’d disagree about it aging well, but I think I get where you’re coming from with that too.

It’s one of those movies where you have to kinda be in the frame of mind to look at it like abstract art sometimes. If you try and watch it as an actual sci-fi movie, it’s gonna fail hard (the SPACE part makes it seem like a sci-fi film, but it really isn’t).

It suffers from some really artsy (as opposed to artistic) pacing and editing at times. And I like the movie a good bit.

Well, yeah, it’s normal.

When you find goodness in the world, and it shares a common denominator, it is perfectly normal to develop some degree or another of affection/attachment for that common denominator. You don’t have to be depressed for that, it just makes it easier.

It can turn into an unhealthy obsession, and it’s possible that the motivations may not be without strings (cults and such), but those aren’t going to be the case every time.

Like, for me, I have a deep and abiding love for gay culture, specifically gay male culture, because of how much love I have received from that subculture. That has expanded over the years to embrace the entire rainbow of the LGBTQ+ community (with some extra affection for my trans folks). You go for a while needing acceptance and open appreciation, you’re going to end up returning it when a specific group is where you find it.

Truth is that the more sub a subculture is, the more likely the people in it are to be outsiders in some way. Maybe marginalized, maybe just atypical; but whether they were individually outsiders that found solidarity, or they became such by joining the subculture, outsiders have a tendency to be at least a little more accepting of other outsiders (though you run into some weird shit where you get schisms sometimes).

And it can be local. As an example, I’ve had universally great interactions with juggalos in my area, but they can be major dicks in other places. As another, furries tend to be really chill with non furries that accept them but can have bitter faction wars with each other.

Don’t let yourself get sucked into any cult shit, but otherwise find the goodness of humanity wherever you can, and enjoy it. Nothing wrong with that

Both are true though.

Waaaaay back, there was the iran-contra trading cards. Basically some stylized art with descriptions of the people and events involved. They sold modestly well.

There were 30ish cards in a box with an image of Ollie North on the cover.

There’s been other, similar, things done over the years as well. So the idea itself is obviously a good one. There’s something about that kind of concise structure that makes skewering whatever socio-political target an entertaining thing. But, they’re also not likely to be something widely popular either. It’s basically a reformatted political cartoon, even if you’re using photos rather than artistic representations. Those tend to be the purview of a fairly narrow audience.

The more serious they are, the narrower that audience is. After a point, it turns into being solely for the terminally obsessed identity politics crowd, and they’re boring as fuck.

An eBay listing to give a look at what was done with the idea back then

This southern man approves wholeheartedly

Jfc, I love that song. Pure fucking absurdity in musical form