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Cake day: January 30th, 2025

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  • i feel like the point is that you have to take the uncertainty into consideration. you are gambling on what kind of bear or what kind of man and so the question is, which one, of unspecified danger, would you rather choose?

    and so, since there is uncertainty baked in, it’s basically demonstrating that women are, generally, more familiar or wary about the dangers of men than bears (there’s a lot more one could say here, but this is basically the point i wanted to make)



  • i would say they describe two separate axes. “agender” is how much you identify with gender at all, whereas “gender non-binary” describes your experience of gender, when/if you have it (which is quite a broad term, with the only definition being “not the binary experience of being a a man or woman”)

    to elaborate, there are other terms e.g. “demigender” or “genderflux” that describe different points on the “how much do you identify with having gender at all” axis (these are like, partially identify with having gender, but not totally)

    so one could be agender or demigirl/boy depending on how much they relate to gender and what they feel their gender is when they do, for example (usually, in this type of situation, someone can still be classified under the bigger umbrella of “agender”, even if they do experience gender sometimes)

    (also, the terns might seem like a lot, but a) they’re not super important, and b) they’re mostly learning root words and modifiers, e.g. “a” is “without”, and “gender” is… gender. “demi” is some, “flux” is… flux, etc)









  • i feel like this comment is actually rooted in concern that talking about suicidal ideation increases it, and, while i don’t have studies to support it, talking about it certainly doesn’t increase the actual rate of suicide, and i believe openly talking about it lowers the barrier to people being able to get help when the thoughts actually become dangerous

    certainly, at least i’ve heard from plenty of people who deal with these sort of thoughts, that not being able to express them can isolate and distance them further from their friends and community (a notably more dangerous situation). so, while the increase in dialogue about suicidal ideation makes me sad, i’m at least happy that it’s increasingly normal for people not to suffer in silence

    but as an aside, gatekeeping suicidal ideation is crazy lmfao







  • uhh, there’s a lot of good and valid discourse about cis men and their perceptions and opinions here. and i think that comment was probably about the cis or cis-passing male experience

    but there’s some unique aspects to being transmasc that suck and feel comparable to being bisexual, with both of us kind of being invisible to society (frequently, anyways; not claiming this applies 100% of the time)

    it seems like there’s a lower bar to passing for trans men (on average, again); this is, generally speaking, a positive in a transphobic society. but it can also be very lonely and isolating, in ways. it’s hard to be really known and a lot of people don’t even know trans men exist

    like i’ve thought about this, and there’s just not a good way to advertise that you’re a trans man. if i’m flying the trans flag colors, people think i’m a pre-transition transfem LOL we don’t have a cohesive and meme-y culture of cat ears and thigh highs, there’s nothing i can wear that’s like “oh that guy’s trans(masc)”

    i mean, i guess i could take my shirt off, but i don’t even think most people would clock me 💀

    anyways i’m just kind of rambling now. but i thought it would be good to have some actual transmasc input on this post lol



  • what’s uhhh, what’s the implication here. because that hand position implies holding down and fucking, but the way the legs are positioned absolutely do not

    could do a riding thing if you have a dick and you’re being held down by someone with a vagina, i guess, but i feel like that’s also a different interpretation of what’s happening

    (mostly joking / overthinking)