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  • Rekorse@sh.itjust.workstoADHD@lemmy.worldThe daily saga
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    5 days ago

    Well you do have a skill others might be envious of, which is the ability to change and learn new things without it causing stress or anxiety. You might do better changing jobs frequently rather than staying in something long term. I think some of the problems surrounding this kind of thing are more to due with the gap between what you expect of yourself and how you actually behave. I would just be careful that the expectations you place on yourself are realistic as its very easy to have them skewed by TV, movies, and social media. If you have unreasonable expectations of yourself you will never meet them and it will cause frustration.

    I think its helpful to have a perspective that says that everyone is different but that different does not mean better or worse. Instead of one right answer, there are many. The things you think might make your life harder are also the things that are special about you, and there is a good use for them out there somewhere.


  • Rekorse@sh.itjust.workstoADHD@lemmy.worldThe daily saga
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    You like learning new things, when they aren’t new anymore they aren’t fun, which is why you have a thousand hobbies that have “just been started and abandoned”. Part of this is accepting that you no longer are intrigued by older hobbies, and making room for new ones. I would recommend disposing of or donating your old hobby supplies, or simply storing them out of the way in bins.

    For the second part, it sounds like you don’t enjoy cleaning or organizing, and are easily distracted by more enjoyable activities. A good way to go about this is to reward yourself with those things once you finish the chore or task you set yourself, rather than to switch to them immediately.

    I’d also add that if you have a chore you can put off for weeks on end, it might not be that important of a chore in the first place.


  • Rekorse@sh.itjust.workstoADHD@lemmy.worldThe daily saga
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    It is normal to realize a series of steps are needed to accomplish a goal, but we are supposed to learn over time what is practical within the time constraints we have.

    This persons list might be entirely practical if they are spending an entire day cleaning and organizing, and they can mentally keep track of the general order things should be done in.

    People start calling things ADHD or ADD when someone is trying to fit that entire list into 30 minutes, and/or they don’t actually need to do 90% of it at all anyways.










  • I came back to say I realized that I also started doing my “me” time in the early morning if I was really tired early the last night. When I was younger I would make myself stay up and play games or watch TV or else I’d be frustrated I wasted my night by sleeping. I really like being up before anyone else in the house and hanging out that way too now.