so true

That’s exciting af :)

Initial gender transition is a wild ride, and it’ll have its ups and down, but I think it’s better to be true to ourselves than try to fit into a lie, so go you!

This sounds like a really grounded way to go about it. Really getting to the root of things.

Thanks for stepping up!

Nobody is really anything except the matter and energy that make them up. Labels are tools humans use to try to categorize things and make meaning when there is none.

Given that you aren’t particularly drawn to most gendered terms, specifically ones that aren’t gender-neutral enough, consider exploring the label “agender” for yourself. You could try it on and see what fits.

Sometimes a more blanket term like “queer” feels better to people.

A note that we can’t wrap our entire being into a single word; there’s too much of it to fit, and we’re bound to over-pour the container. It can be more helpful to consider them as tags or attributes, not containers.

It’s funny, but I forgot that my band MISSU KISSU had a song about genderfluidity. Well, it’s more like a silly gay love song that uses genderfluidity as a pun, but yeah!

https://missukissu.bandcamp.com/track/gender-fluid-take-one

That’s fair. It’s not for everyone, and I don’t think the character presented in it is necessarily mentally stable, but I relate to it a lot.

“I / Me / Myself” for sure. For a cis dude, Will Wood has done a ton of self-reflection his own gender identity.

Really, I just recommend anything by him.

Thanks for the ping! Ive messaged them.

I had to stop reading right there

Love this post! You have such a fun playful style of writing and it’s a style that I never see on like, reddit for instance. Emojis are really looked down on there and language is expected to be pretty standardized. I love how much fun u have w it :3

Thanks for sharing your story! :) My partner was binary trans for years before they came out as nonbinary, which far more matches their identity.

I myself thought that binary trans was the only option when I was in high school so I pushed that egg deep down down down until my early 30s when it cracked open. When I first was thinking about transitioning, the idea of fully going fem just didn’t feel right for me. I feel so grateful to live in a s o c i e t y where it’s more welcomed than in the past.

This is wonderful, though I feel like “I don’t feel super comfortable in my body” as a pre-cursor to nonbinary identity is a narrow view. I didn’t experience much gender dysphoria before transitioning, but I experience a hell of a lot of gender euphoria when exploring my nb side.

It must have been so much more difficult to engage in relationships like this back then. It truly was revolutionary, to go up against everyone in your life and society to follow your heart.

It’s an awesome feeling to come to accept! I know many trans individuals who started off going hard binary trans, and then settling on something more in the genderfluid or nonbinary spectrum. I think it feels more right for some people to go full binary trans in the beginning in situations in which they have a part of themselves that has been heavily repressed by society. After they’ve “got it out of their system” so to speak, some people realize that they’re actually not always one or the other gender.

It’s an experience that some relate to and some don’t. Congratulations on coming to a deeper understanding of yourself! <3

(disclaimer: 31 Years old queer)

I grew up in Jacksonville, FL and it wasn’t great then, but I can only imagine what it’s like now with Desantis. You holding the line

I’d fuck that dog

Ah nice! Probably the same bundle I got it in.

I enjoyed playing this with my partner!

It’s also available on Itch: https://purplesloth.itch.io/whats-your-gender

HAHA gdi